Welcome back to this week’s Q&A post! If you haven’t read part 1 yet go check it out (link here). This is the advice part of this blog post and so all these questions are just my advice and opinion on the questions asked, if you don’t agree or have more advice please comment below!
Just like in part one the Instagram of the person who asked the question will be linked so go and check them out.
Again any advice given by Haydn will have a little ‘H’ next to it.
Without any more hesitation let’s get onto the questions:
Q: Any advice on how to not be awkward when meeting in person?
A: Okay I was soo nervous about meeting Haydn for the first time. When the day finally came around I was excited one minute and having a nervous breakdown the next. Of course these nerves are completely normal. But for me and Haydn it was never awkward even in the beginning I think this is mostly down to the fact that the way we acted over text, call and skype was how we actually are in real life; even though we didn’t really know each other in a way we did. I guess what I’m trying to say is act the same with him/her online as you would do in real life, that way there won’t be any personality surprises when you do meet.
Q: How can I convince my boyfriend that an LDR will be alright?
A: I’m not sure if there is a specific way you can convince anyone that it’ll be okay. Actions speak louder than words. If your about to get into one from your boyfriend/you moving away, then defiantly discuss how things will work and how much time you’ll still get to chat via social media/text/calling. Also set an exact time period when you will be reunited so that you have something to look forward too. If you have met someone online then defiantly just appreciate each other’s company, meet in person see what it like, and then go for there. An LDR is hard and can be frustrating so you really just need to take each day as it comes.
Q: Do you have any tips on telling/explaining to parents
A: Meeting and falling in love with someone over the internet will always seem like an abnormal thing to anyone who hasn’t experienced it. With my mum I started mentioning Haydn’s name when I told her about my day so she started to see how much I was interacting with him. In all honestly though I don’t think she every realised how serious I was about him until after our first meeting had been planned. Haydn’s sister was so supportive of us and so we basically owe everything to her for helping us meet for the first time. I know that the advice on this one isn’t great but I don’t have much. My mum knew who Haydn was, that he wasn’t from Bournemouth and that we talked all the time but that’s pretty much it. (H): I never really had to explain to my parents because I opened up to my older sister about everything that was going on and luckily for us she was super supportive in telling my parents and sorting out a first visit.
Q: Do you have any tips on how to save up to meet them?
A: Haydn and I live in the UK so we can use coach services like National Express to visit each other. Companies like this often have discount cards that you can purchase and use to get money off your travel. We have National Express under 25 coach cards which gives us 1/3 off the ticket price. If you both live in the same country defiantly have a look for services like this. Booking in advance is also the key to cheaper travel some visits only cost us around £20. But if your visits are more expensive you could do little things like saying no to fast foods and putting the money you would have spent into savings. We each pay for our visits to each other – I pay to go to Leeds and vice versa – to make sure I can afford it I work part time in a retail shop! Balancing everything is pretty tough but that’s a whole other blog post, let me known if you wanted something more about that.
Q: Long distance is hard and many people don’t make it work. What do you guys think helps you get through hard times being so far away and what helps you stay together?
A: The main thing that helps us get through is communication. I know so many people will tell you this is important in a relationship but it’s even more important for long distance couples. It’s important to make time for each other and do fun little skype dates when you can. I also think having a date of when your next possible visit is (or a rough idea of when you’ll be able to meet) can really help keep a positive vibe around the relationship. It’s really important your boyfriend/girlfriend realises how much they mean to you and that you think about them during the day even when you’re not talking, try tagging them in Instagram posts or sending them cute songs that remind you of them.
Thanks for reading if you haven’t read part one go check it out! If you still have a question that hasn’t been answered then let me know!