Hey guys,
I hope you’re doing well? If you’re new to my blog, then you might not know that I am in a long distance relationship! In this post, I thought it might be fun to share with you some of my long distance related advice – although this advice might be useful for all couples.
Like any relationship, long distance relationships can be hard. I’ve thought about the 5 things that I think are most helpful:
- You’ll hear it from everyone but COMMUNICATION; this doesn’t just mean talking about a TV series, but deep heart to heart conversations. Being open can really help, if somethings bothering you telling your partner is really the best way forward. They might not have a solution but if they know how you’re feeling you’ll feel more connected and in sync with each other. Building a trusting relationship with someone you can depend on is key and if you’re to depend on someone you need to be open to telling them things.
- Have a regular routine of when you’ll be able to talk. Knowing when you’ll have the chance to chat is important because you need time to communicate (for reasons stated above) and to just be together. If you’re not sure how to make virtual time together interesting try watching a movie together or playing multiplayer games (I recommend the app QuizUp, as it let’s your bring out your competitive side). In a long distance relationship there’s no doubt that you’ll miss your partner so doing things together will help you feel much closer.
- Use a countdown app! Even if you’re not 100% sure on the next time you’ll see each other put a rough date into a countdown app so you can see how long it is until your reunited. This is a positive way to past the time when you’re apart, rather than moping around the house in your sweats. Planning time together is one of the most exciting parts of an LDR, dedicate some time to talking about when you’ll next see each other or when your first meeting will be. (Click here to read about the first time I met my boyfriend in real life)
- Be present in each others lives. This sounds silly but what I mean is talk about what you’re doing and listen to their stories with a real interest. Learn their likes and dislikes so even when you are apart you know how their day is going and what their up to. Although this isn’t permission to be a total social networking stalker to hunt their every move. Just be curious about things wider than your relationship together.
- Finally but still importantly, live your own life too. Of course you need to make time for your boyfriend/girlfriend but don’t detach yourself from the world around you. Not every second of every day needs to be spent texting/calling your partner in order to keep the relationship strong. You need you time too! Do things you enjoy, stay social with family and friends, try new hobbies. If it’s meant to be your other will still be there at the end of the day.
I hope you found that advice useful. Leave me a comment below telling me your own top relationship advice! Also feel free to message me on Instagram if you would like some personal relationship advice, you can use my @charliestarblogs account or my long distance couple account @211_miles.
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Charliestar xoxo
Follow our long distance journey on Instagram: @211_miles
My Instagram: @Charliestarblogs
More LDR related posts: HERE
Countdowns:
Next Seeing Haydn: 5 Days
Coasts Concert: 9 Days
Catfish And The Bottlemen Concert: 53 Days
School Summer: 60 Days
Scouting For Girls Concert: 174 Days
Long distance sucks but is totally do able my husband is military so that happens a lot!!
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I agree there are so many negatives but there are some positives! Have you read my pros and cons post? https://charliestarblogs.com/2017/05/09/pros-and-cons-of-a-long-distance-relationship/
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Congratulations Charlotte!! I really liked the way of being closerer by playing online multiplayer games😎😍
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Thanks! We always do something like this as it’s just a nice way to do a together thing!!
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I strongly agree..will surely share this with my bf too❤
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Aww thanks I’m glad you liked it xo
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I love the countdown app I use, it allows for changes in units of measure so i can count days, hours, even how many heartbeats till we are together!💓💓💓 And as soon as he texts me on his first break at work today Im gonna mention QuizUp cuz that sounds like fun!!
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I’m so glad you liked it xx💜
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I’ve also been in a LDR and to me the most important thing is to have a goal together. If you don’t see the future in the same way, there’s no need to keep going. x
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I agree x There has to be an end goal that you both work towards!
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Aw! This post was so cute-great advice❤
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Thanks babe 🙈
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Welcome-can’t believe I’ve not checked out your blog before, it’s fab!☺️💗
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Awww thank you so much!!! Make sure you follow as I’ve got a giveaway going live Tuesday 💗🙈
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Already do-looking forward to it🙊💗
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Ahhh so excited for it 💜💜
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Forgot to say well done for 250 followers-good going💗
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Awww thank you 🙈
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Welcome💜
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Such a fantastic post!
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Thank you 🙂
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Me and my boyfriend were in a long distance relationship for 2 and half years. I then moved 180 miles to live with his family and we’ve been so happy since. We’re coming up to a year of living together in July. I hated when people would say “well you’re not really in a relationship are you” well, yes we are or “how do you know he isn’t cheating” that really got on my nerves. I’ve actually found that we argue so much less now because we can actually hear how each other means what we’re saying rather than reading it on text and taking it the wrong way. Everything you’ve said in this post is so true. I’d also say having someone who isn’t your partner to also talk to about it really helps. It’s good to talk to someone going through the same thing and can relate to what you’re saying.
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Awww what a cute story! Haydn and I are planning to close the 211 miles of distance next July which is very exciting xxx I’ve heard all the annoying long distance Question too!!!
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You’ve got some great tips 🙂 It’s important to live your own life too!! Long distance can be hard but it is definitely doable.
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I agree! I’m determined to be with Haydn so anything is possible z
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thanks for your advices cuz really i will live a long distance relationship within next month and I was afraid about it
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The game (I used to love Quiz Up omg!!) and the Countdown app are such fantastic ideas – I think I’m going to do this with my boyfriend 🙂 xxx
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You definitely should I love being able to know how long it is!! 😋💜
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Wow, this really helps!! You should check out my blog-me and my bff are in the process of dealing with her moving and I’d love some more helpful tips!
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Awww, absolutely on point!
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Brilliant advice :3 will definitely be getting a countdown app since I think that’s a great idea!
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I love it! My boyfriend and I are in a 12 hour time difference and we argue all the time about communication and how important it is.
I will share with him these tips!
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Awww that sucks, I dunno how I’d manage a time difference! Respect for you two x
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