I hope you’re doing well? I figured it was time to write another Long Distance Relationship related blog post so here it is. This is sort of like one of those ‘things you’ll know if’ posts excepts its about being in an LDR and my experiences. Whilst this is all relatable a lot is going to be negative and complaining so I thought I’d pop in a little disclaimer that I love the relationship I have with Haydn and if that means all of these negatives come along with it then bring it on; I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’m sure some of my readers can relate to these so lets jump into it.
I met Haydn online so the first 7 months of our friendship were formed over the internet. To this day the struggles of bad WiFi make me irrationally angry. Sometimes Skype connects, sometimes it doesn’t, it honestly gives me trust issues. It’s not even just internet that gives me these mixed feelings even phone signal can do the same. I hate when my messages send and receive out of sync; meaning I have no clue what we are actually talking about. When communication methods play up it feels like you’re so much further apart.
Travelling to see him/her is the best but also kinda the worst. For me I sit down on a coach and know that for the next 8/9 hours this is my home; I am one with the coach. For obvious reasons I love it every time because no matter what he’ll be waiting for me at the end of the road. Although It’s exhausting whatever time of day you travel, travel sleeping is just not the same. On top of all that it costs money! We’re lucky as trips are pretty cheap as we go by coach but it still uses up money that I’d rather spend on date nights or activities together.
When you are together there’s that underlining sadness that you’ll have to be apart again eventually. The last day is the worst because you literally count down the minutes till you have to be separated and it’s heartbreaking. This pain and heart ache reminds you that you love them and that the relationship is something you want to fight for. When it is time to leave you stand at the airport, train station, coach station etc.. and feel like the entire world is watching you. I grip onto Haydn so tightly in our final hugs and we lean over the barriers for one last kiss and ‘I love you’ before we really really have to board. No matter how much fun you’ve had together or how long you’ve spent in each others company you’ll most likely cry every time you leave them again.
And then it goes back to WiFi problems and the heart ache of being away from each other. Whilst also secretly hating every normal couple who spend masses of time together because not only will they never know your pain but you will also never feel that level of normality.
How was that? Did you guys enjoy this sort of post? I know it’s a little bit deeper but I wanted to explore a little bit more with my blog. Please leave me a comment and let me know! Also Haydn and I have a video of all the pictures and videos from the first time we met, would that be something you’d like to see?