I hope you’re doing well? I can’t actually believe that I’m typing the words ‘We closed the distance’, it just doesn’t feel real. But sitting here in our little flat, surrounded by our things makes me so happy because we made it.
On 6th April 2016 Haydn and I met for the very first time after 7 months of chatting online. There was a point when even that first meeting seemed impossible because we were so young and the 211 miles of distance that lied between us felt like light years away. Since that first visit, we shared 4742 hours in each other’s company – yes I kept track.
Over the 27 months of distance I learnt a lot about how hard it is to make a real relationship work with someone living so far away. I won’t lie and say it was always easy because there was hurdle after hurdle; but every stumble was worth it in the end because from day one I knew Haydn was someone I genuinely saw myself being with. I think every LDR couple experience some hate from the people around them, telling you online relationships are fake or that it’ll never work out with the distance and we definitely weren’t immune to this. It happened a lot in the beginning but I learnt to ignore it and now I can look back, feeling slightly smug, knowing that they were all wrong and it was okay for me to trust in my heart.
About a week ago on 6th July, my parents helped me move from Bournemouth on the south coast of England all the way up to Leeds. Haydn and I then moved into our very first flat. It’s actually a little bit insane that this day came around as it’s something that as a long distance couple we talked about pretty much every day since starting our relationship.
All of our one days have come true; meeting each other, spending long periods together, meeting each other’s family, going away together and now moving in together. It’s so exciting to think about what one days will come true for us next because even though the long distance portion of our relationship is over we still have plenty to look forward to. I’ve known since day one that Haydn was my soulmate and even if my head didn’t always believe it would work out my heart did and now here we are.
If you are in a long distance relationship then don’t believe what anybody else says about your relationship because you can make anything work if you both give it the right amount of effort. It is doable, you can have a real relationship online and nothing is impossible if you work hard enough.
I tried my hardest not to make this a cringe fest but I feel like I’m sitting right on the fence. I hope you are having a great summer so far! I can’t wait to have a blogging routine in place again; so many ideas are flowing but so little time to write them!